Prevent Being Your Own Worst Enemy
31 January 2023
Why is it you feel like you're not getting ahead? Are you having difficulty in finding those golden opportunities, or could it be you're not recognizing and taking the opportunities when they come right before you?
It does seem crazy, but the most common reason people don't succeed is that they're engaging in self-defeating behaviors on a daily basis. If you're not performing at the very level you think you ought to be at right now; you might want to consider whether or not you've become your own worst enemy and are self-sabotaging your very own success.
How can you tell? Look for these four signs:
1. You're Giving Yourself the Wrong Pep Talk
Instead of using some positive self-talk to get things done, are you by any chance using negative self-talk to keep you from trying? After all, it's very easy to convince ourselves that we're failures. Why do we do it? Because if we know, it's not going to work out, we never have to try in the first place.
2. You're Burying Yourself in Something Else Entirely
Are you easily distracted? If you're worried about the outcome of one project, it's not uncommon to throw yourself into another. This helps you keep your mind off of what worries you. It also keeps you from getting done what you need to.
3. You're Procrastinating
When you put things off, it typically means you are feeling unsure about what you're doing. If you feel like your skills are not up to the task, or you're not confident regarding the next step, it's natural to put things off, hoping that they'll seem more apparent later. The problem is this clarity rarely comes. In truth, we only wind up sinking ourselves when we should have been asking for help.
4. You Use the Emergency Exit
And do you tend to come close to completion of a project only to back out at the last minute? When you feel the need to bail, it's typically because you're afraid to take the last step. Either you're too worried that it won't work out, or worse, you're worried that it will. It's not uncommon to back away from things that frighten us. This is why we tank a relationship the moment we start to feel close to the other person. It's also why we sabotage ourselves at work when we hear we're being considered for promotion.
The key is to start boosting your confidence…
You May Need a Confidence Boost Right Now
The very thing that may be lacking in your daily to-do’s is getting that daily confidence boost. It might mean that you need to access a mentor or some sort of daily input that raises your level of awareness and allows for self-growth along the way. This in turn will raise the bar for you and you will begin to see those changes you seek right now. To get you moving, watch this if you need a confidence boost:
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Do the Right Thing for YOU
The behaviors that have a seriously detrimental effect on what we're doing need to be acknowledged and worked on daily. Indeed, we are all experts at being our own worst enemies, especially when we were trying to accomplish something which involves any manner of risk, or the task is personally important to us. Be that friend you always wanted and get some help for yourself with what matters most when it comes to self-growth and confidence. It’ll pay dividends in the long run, and you will be pleased you did as you become more aware of your own self-growth in life.
